|I wrote this a while back. Still holds true.|
You see, it's taken a long time for me to get comfortable with, me. I want people to get to know me and not to draw conclusions based on a label. I want the same for my son, for him to be accepted based on his own merits, achievements and successes. You see, the world does not make excuses or gives free passes for those that are different.
Which brings me back to what I've seen recently in this community. I've seen a complete and utter lack of respect. A lack of respect for the person behind the screen name, the individual. A lack of respect for what another person has said and a complete disregard for everything except their own agenda. I have witnessed name calling, calling people assholes, baiting people to attack and agenda pushing at its finest. I've seen both sides pile-on and add their two cents and the sad part is? No one is listening. No one. How can they, when attack mode has been relegated as the new norm?
And that makes me want to walk away, not to come back. But, but...I don't walk away from things that are important to me. Things that I hold dear. Things that I find unsettling for me and my child's future.
When you are an adult, act like an adult. It's just that simple. Quit blaming someone else. Is not up to me, or anyone for that matter, to tell you how to behave. And if you don't know? Then simply ask.
If you're angry, then step away. Coming into a discussion angry and baiting will only foster those feelings. And if you're angry and itching for a fight, please go some place else. You're simply not going to get a fight from me. That's not who I am and not who I want to be.
The thing with the Internet is, other people can't read your mind, they don't know the day you've had or what life's thrown at you, and really? Everyone has their own struggles and issues they're dealing with. Believe it or not, they may be in a worse place than you.
While the fight goes on, this is as far as I will go into it. I will not engage. I won't converse with those unwilling to listen and I certainly won't be baited by those looking for a fight. And the thing is? There are plenty of other people like me. Parents and self advocates who want to get along and understand each other without out a divide. Those people do exist and when you find them, you will know.
So I will continue to teach my child how to be respectful and kind. I will work where I know I'm effective, here, my home, with my children and in my community. And hopefully what I'm doing will be good enough. Hopefully my son and others will learn a thing or two.
That is my hope.