It requires some give and take on my part. That means if Lizzy shows up wearing a party dress, tiara and pink sparkle leg warmers over Rainbow Dash leggings, I go with it. It also means if they don't help pack their lunches then I get to stick in whatever I want. That means bagged carrots, a yogurt tube and an Uncrustable. It's happened once to each of them and they've wizened up pretty quickly.
We stopped printing out what they are serving at school since both are pretty reluctant to eat what they are serving in the cafeteria. What we do for school lunches is a whole other post....
At first blush this picture of breakfast seems pretty mundane, boring even. Look closer.
Can you see that each kiddo has their own electronic? Each child is eating a different breakfast?
The baby is eating scrambled eggs, Lizzy is working on Nutella and bread and Alex is working on "grandma style" pancakes. That translates to homemade pancakes with a shit-ton of dark chocolate chips in them. Specifically Ghirardelli large chips, 65% cocoa.
See how I've not yet managed to get drinks or silverware on the counter yet? And I've given the environment the middle finger and they're all eating on paper plates?
My sacrifice to keeping the calm in the morning is to let them use their i-things while eating so they all quit yelling/arguing/shoving each other long enough to pile in some breakfast.
The kids and I have come to an agreement, a truce if you will. My son presented a solution for the three of them: They get to play their electronics and agree to quit hassling me long enough so I can get a cup of coffee in.
It's a compromise. A negotiation. A life skill in bartering in which we all win.
Never in a million years did I think I'd be negotiating 'coffee time' with my eight year old child. Honestly, I think he had it all figured out before he came down to breakfast that morning.
And my boy runs a pretty hard bargain.
They get their electronics, food of their choice and paper plates. I get my coffee.
I'm happy with the deal I made.
Note: Tuesday I'll be at SPD Network talking about our OT Room. Please spread the word if this would help anyone you may know.
And I put links to the Uncrustables and chocolate so you know what they are. I have some friends over-seas who may not know what I'm talking about. The links are informational only.