Friday, May 4, 2012

He said what? I wonder where he heard that from....

Today's Friday so can I get a big AMEN?  In the blogging world, or in the cool blogging world, that means we're doing horribly fun things with Ryan Gosling.  Visit Sunday over at Adventures in Extreme Parenthood and see what I'm talking about.


Alex's teacher met me at the flagpole for pickup yesterday afternoon.  I'll let that sink in for a moment.

Having the teacher come out and meet me at the flagpole used to make my stomach swirl with nausea.  A whole host of scenarios ran through my mind.  Did he lick someone?  Did he Tae Kwon Do anther kid?  Did he correct a teacher or tell them their lesson plan was inferior and subject to his review?  Or did he stop, drop and roll minus the fire?

You just never know.

Anyway, his teacher comes out to meet me every day now because we're in a sort of holding pattern.  We're stabilizing somewhere between full on benders and a variety stims.  He has about six stims going right now so in my mind I call it a six-pack.  Honestly, we're just biding out time till school lets out.

Fourteen days left if anyone's interested.  And yes, I'm counting each and every last one of them.

So she comes out of school with a small smile on her face, kind of laughing, so I knew it couldn't be that bad.

Alex?  Well, he wasn't smiling.  "Mom, Mrs. Smith says I said a bad word."

Fuck.  

"Err, you said a bad word?"  Now, a whole host of bad words went through my mind, rapid fire, in under a tenth of a second.  We all know I'm pretty fluent in the base vernacular of the English language.

My next thought was, "Please don't let it be the F-bomb, please don't let it be the F-bomb."

"Yeah Mom, Mrs. Smith says I used a bad word but its not fair.  You use it at home all the time."

Oh fuckety-fuck-fuck.  It was the F-bomb.  I'm so screwed. 

"I said I was pissed off and I got in trouble for it.  You told me it was OK to say I was pissed off when I was at home but now it's not OK to say it at school."

Oh thank you Baby Jesus.

Now his teacher turns and looks over at me, one eyebrow raised, questioning, "You let him say that at home?"

I turn and look at Alex and suddenly he had these big eyes, kinda like this:

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Well how can you resist that?  I couldn't lie and blame it on him.  I had to own it.

"Well, yes, I do let him say he's pissed-off when he's at home.  See, for the longest time Alex couldn't identify his emotions and had a hard time articulating how he was feeling.  Gaw, he just now started putting words to his emotions.  So when he was angry we made a scale from one to ten.  One was irritated and ten was super mad, like he was pissed off and ready to explode.  I thought it was important for him to correctly identify his emotional state, as he was feeling it, so we could work on the right calm down methods."

And that's the God's honest truth.

With that I give you my main man, Ryan.



On a different note, I wanted to thank Sunday for having me to her place yesterday.  It was a blast.  I want also thank those of you who went over and took the time to look, see and comment.  You have no idea what that means to me as your friendships are what pull me through.

If you still want to see it, I have it linked here.

And you totally know when his teacher was talking to me up there I was all, "I'm so going to blog about this."   And I did.


51 comments:

  1. I love that you place so much importance on Alex being able to address his emotions. I've been trying to do the same here with Danny. This year, he has been sharing his feelings with me so much more than ever before. This is a huge breakthrough, and frankly, I'm much more concerned that he can accurately tell me how he's feeling than I am about his word usage. Who cares that he says, "pissed off"?

    Glad it wasn't the f-bomb!

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    1. Exactly! Once I explained it to his teacher she totally got it. I told her he has to know while it's not OK to be screaming it, it is ok to use it to tell us how he's feeling---for us thats a MAJOR breakthrough.

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  2. Thank God it was only "pissed off!" You really had me going too there... I was just *waiting* for that old Lizbeth-patented F-bomb!

    You know what else? I am totally with you on this one. If Little Miss came up and told me that she was pissed off and genuinely meant it, I would dance... hmmm... maybe an Irish step dance would even be in order? (sorry, I couldn't resist)

    Oh, and speaking of your blogging adventures over at Sunday's place, I downloaded Spice Bandits last night and spent like, an hour and a half playing it. I'm up to level 17, but I still do stupid stuff that gets me killed in Camps play. Tell your boy to look for september99 if he's looking for a grownup to empty out a can a whup-ass.

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    1. You know something???? For as much as I cuss and swear here, I rarely say it out loud. Sure it goes a mile a minute in my mind but never in my real voice, if that makes any sense.

      Yeah, I'm totally blowing my cover. :)

      I'll see what he's doing/how he's feeling tonight. you may get an invite!!!

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  3. So glad that it wasn't the "mother of all swear words. The f-dash-dash-dash". :)

    Way to go, Alex, for expressing emotion!

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    1. Is that from A Christmas Story? I'm swooning over here if that's what you just referenced!!!

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  4. Personally I think this makes you the best mom ever. You gave him the words to express himself so you could know how he was feeling. Hell, so the world knows how he's feeling. I say high five to you and Alex.

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  5. I still vividly remember the time I got called out of a work meeting by the school principal to tell me my son was going to have to serve a detention for "inappropriate language at lunch time". We were in the midst of some really horrendous, unregulated, free for all kind of days so I cringed to think of what he had said. Add to that he has Tourettes, ADHD, and Aperger's and I figured it was going to be something monumentally bad.

    Ready for it???

    CRAP

    Say what??? Yup, you read it right. I got hauled out of a work meeting and my kid was sitting in detention for "crap"

    So I said "Holy shit lady, seriously?" and hung up.

    No I didn't - but I wanted to.

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    1. YOU HAVEW GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.....

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    2. That's the kind of stuff our school has been doing this year. I'm to the point I probably would really say, "Holy shit lady, seriously?" or "For fuck's sake, don't you have bigger things to worry about during the school day?"

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    1. so full of innuendo, that was.

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    2. Lexi, that sounded like something Yoda would say!

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  7. ahahahahaaa. The teachers thought Casey was saying the F word in class and called me in for a meeting. It wasn't the F word. It wasn't even close. I'm guessing they just assumed based on his mothers lack of filter that the fbomb flew freely in this house.

    It does.

    Just in my brain.

    Also, I was reading through a bunch of your posts last night. I think maybe you've seen Silence of the Lambs (or recreated it scene by scene in your basement) one too many times. Either way, it makes for some dynamite middle of the night laugh so hard it hurts reading. Thanks for that.

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    1. Thank you, I think....but here's the thing----I don't think I'm funny!!!! I don't know how it turns out that way, I really don't!!!

      Now that you say it, I do have a few pinned butterflies in frames in my house.....I must go and destroy them now.

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  8. Please. "Pissed off" is a bad word? At least she was smiling, it's not like he said "frickin' ass'n." Not that someone I know very well has said that. At school. Nope.

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    1. You need to go tell your husband to wash his mouth out with soap. We all know it was him.

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  9. Hahahaha! I can just see those big eyes looking at you :D

    Good for you for owning it -- he'll remember your courage and honesty (as he blasts away in SB). I understand needing to bring it to your attention, but think it's pretty cool that she met you with a bit of a smile.

    And so excited that your guy can say how he's feeling. That is enormously important.

    And now? Pool par-tay!

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    1. See, you get it!!!!! It is so important and that was one of my first thoughts (other than oh shit) was that he was able to say he was mad---how bloody awesome is that?!?

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  10. oh Lizbeth how you make me laugh!
    I love how you fessed up. nothing wrong with it anyways.
    Glad she wasn't all bitchy about it.

    I love Ryan in the pool and how he wants to regulate your emotions. OMG I needed that today.
    TGIF!!!

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    2. I'm sorry I deleted my original comment because I thought you were spam and you are not.

      I am sorry and please accept my apologies.

      The rest of you please show some love to Kristi at her place: There's No Time for Pants!

      http://theresnotimeforpants.blogspot.com/

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  12. OH crap...I would have been freaking out too. For as often as I drop the f-bomb at home and as much as the boy scripts - he hasn't said it once. And now of course that I said it here - I may have jinxed myself.

    GOOD JOB ALEX!! for putting words together with his emotions!!!

    As for you little miss - get in that pool! Ryan is waiting :D

    And your Team Extreme post is my must read list...

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  13. Okay, this: "Did he correct a teacher or tell them their lesson plan was inferior and subject to his review?" made me LOL until I nearly cried. I'm so glad my child isn't the only one who comes up with stuff like that!!

    Re: saying "pissed off", I think it's pretty sad when schools aren't able to see the progress a child makes (expressing emotions) because they're too worried about something as small as a sort-of not the best word. If they think those kids haven't heard worse than that, they're not living in the real world! Luckily mine thinks "Cursing is WRONG omg" and makes sure to let me know when I've said something I shouldn't. ;)

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    1. He actually fired his teacher Donald Trump style one time. NO LIE.

      And thanks, you understand it and his teacher did too once I explained it. Now we share a little laugh about it and she encourages it but just not with the words "pissed off" at school.

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  14. Even I don't think "pissed off" is that bad of a word =)

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  15. At least he's started working his way slowly up to the big one.

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  16. Love this! Sometimes, pissed off is just the right word for just the right time! Even Alex knows that! :)

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  17. No worries! Perhaps I should have elaborated beyond the Warren G song that went through my head when I saw "regulate my emotion." Sometimes I make the mistake of assuming everyone is tuned in to my inner radio station! (P.S. I tried to reply in the original comment thread, like a responsible commenter, but the interwebs hates me. So I could not.)

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    1. Mine went right there.

      In fact, I said it JUST the way it's said in the song the FIRST time I read it. Like my mind knew it was time for a little Warren G.

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    2. Ohhhh, I get it now...I am SUCH an idiot. I should probably put that as a disclaimer somewhere up top there, big and bold. But that would require work and having to go into the design template of Blogger and I must avoid that at all costs....And seriously if you could tune into my inner dialogue I may scare you half to death....

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  18. Pissed off? That's it? LOL!!! My 4 yr old says it. :p Whatever works for our kids. Seriously. Nice job on that 1-10 gauge. I like that.

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  19. Pissed off? That is so very minor!

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  20. wow! I can't believe that was an issue. Glad it wasn't the f-bomb. Lj (6 next week) thinks if he changes one letter, then its not a cuss, so he TRIES to get away with saying, SHAT and PASS CRACK. Its so hard not to laugh and tell him its unacceptable.

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    1. Ok, that's funny how he changes one letter. I say its totally legit. :)

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  21. Well, I spose it was obligatory for the teacher to "bring it to your attention" but I doubt she was upset. I think it's AWESOME! Happy Weekend, (and eventually you'll have to get out of the pool you know...)

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    1. No, she wasn't upset. He said it in the classroom around the whole class, in his best outdoor voice, with parent helpers in the room. I found that last bit out when the other moms told me how "cute" it was....

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  22. And now she will know what threat color Alex is at if he tells her he is pissed again!

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  23. You know, I don't even consider the phrase "pissed off" to be bad language. What does that say about me?

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    1. Tells me I wanna hang out with you, thats what!

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  24. hahaha....excellent get out!! And it makes perfect sense too! Did you give her the sad eyes too as you said it?

    Know the feeling when teacher waiting, I used to get that and this week I got the dreaded phone call from the Principal. Guess who's also counting the days til school's out?! June 30th seems a LONG time away!!

    xx Jazzy

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  25. That's hilarious! I too cannot wait until we're done with this school year and we're done with this school. It's been a ridiculous year. I guess if nothing else, I've gotten plenty of blog fodder, and I can see some more coming before it's over (June 7).

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  26. Ha! Unfortunatley my son O has dropped the f-bomb, with perfect inflection, and in 'appropriate' context! I admit he heard it from me because I have said the WTF phrase in fustration. He literally didn't know it was a bad word at the time! Now if he hears me saying it (or any other curse words) he says "Ooooo Mom, you said the word!" and then if he's feeling uber frustrated he says "Oh! I'm gonna say the word!" This is our cue to run in and diffuse the situation. :)

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